Core Values

Aug, 13, 2018

I’ve been on the self-discovery path for about a year.  I am fortunate to have friends who share life tips and tricks.

A few years ago, my friend Adrienne told me she’d been struggling to find a new career path.  I was surprised.  It was hard for me to see her as a person in need of help.   She’s a very driven and successful woman.  Of course we all have challenges; at the time of our conversation she was a new mom looking to launch a new career path.

Adrienne explained she’d enlisted help from a life coach.  “Life coach? what’s that,” I asked.  She explained a life coach helps clarify the direction you want your life to head.  I thought about it and decided that was neat….and did nothing.

Fast forward to about a year ago.  Just home from a fab trip to Asia, I decided I’d like to do something more creative and fun for a living.  Nursing is my current profession, a hard job even on a good day.  So, I called Adrienne and asked about her life coach and friend Laura Todd.  I contacted Laura for a short phone interview.  We both decided yes! Let’s work together.  One of the first exercises she gave me was to outline my core values.  Have you ever tried to do that?  It’s tougher than you think.  I spent a few hours or so writing down what I believed to be values contained in a very interesting intake form.  Then, on one of our first meetings, we talked about the values.

We prioritized, edited and clarified a long list of words I thought of as values.  We whittled it down to my five core values: truth, health, creativity, love and freedom.  Since then, I’ve been focused on making those values the touchstone for decisions.  When life doesn’t feel ‘right’, I evaluate how my current actions or choices align with my core values.

As I lean more into my values, life seems easier.  I like to think of it as swimming downstream, when choices open up doors and actions bring opportunities.  Guess what?   Life is getting better!  Sometimes the choices are hard, but in the end I am at peace.

If you’re wondering about Adrienne, she’s good.  Of course she found a great job where she’s shining as an Environmental Specialist for the local port.


  1. Defining core values is challenging but very rewarding.
  2. Choose your truth.
  3. Listen to wise friends, even if it takes a year.
  4. Love yourself.



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    August 13, 2018

    Way to go! Awesome blog.

    Sent from my iPhone


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    August 28, 2018

    Yay! I love Laura and I love you! Thank you so much for your insights. And the reminder to revisit my core values more often.
    I hope to see an “own your dorkiness/nerdyness” post one of these days.

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