A passion for…

Sep, 06, 2018

Is passion necessary to live a full life?  Have you found yours?

According to the dictionary, passion is: an intense desire or enthusiasm for something.  I would say passion as that thing that makes time pass without a thought.  A passion can be collecting, fishing, hunting, playing D&D, running, algae… the list goes on.  It’s a person’s ‘thing’, something that drives the mind.  A passion is something look forward to, think about all the time.  It may be difficult but, you’ll want to master it.  It gets in your blood and can be obsessive and ritualistic.  Even more, a passion gives you a way to live life in a different way.   

As I told you in another post, I have a Creative Writing bachelor’s degree.  My major changed three times in college.  I started in the arts, abandoned that for a disastrous business quarter and finally declared in english.  At the time I felt like a failure.  I thought that four years in and out was success.  I believed that everyone but me knew exactly what they were supposed to do.   Yet, my last year in school was my most successful.  I found writing classes enjoyable and worked really hard.  

After college, I searched for my passion by trying on different hats.  At one time I wanted travel to be my passion.  I taught english in Asia, walked the Camino and trekked the Himalayas.  I ran marathons, knitted, and went back to school for nursing. My journeys were all a bit different but had a common thread.  I was trying to find time and space.  Anytime time and space showed up I became inspired to express myself.  I’d begin writing again.  That time and space didn’t last.  Life’s priorities would take over and I’d stop writing.  Writing did not feel like a worthy focus.  Instead I tried to settle down,  buy stuff, work crummy jobs.  

We all have to maintain our lives and pay bills but we need not settle for a mediocre life. But, here’s something to think about.  

According to a Stanford-Yale study, “Psychologists at Stanford and Yale-NUS College examined theories of interest, more specifically fixed theory (our passions are inherent and hidden within us) and growth theory (passions are something to be developed and nurtured over time).  Over the course of five individual studies with the same participants, they found that those who had tested positively for being fixed theory inclined developed less and less interest in articles and media that weren’t linked to their designated interest.”(quoted from: Why ‘Follow Your Passion’ Isn’t the Best Career Advice After All)

I was following the ‘fixed theory’ line of thought.  I believed that my passions would rise to the surface eventually if I kept up with life.  I waited for opportunities to show up and spent a lot of time and energy on things I thought I had to do.  Looking back I was trying to complete some imaginary to-do list I thought my parents gave me.  If I really think about it, the only thing they consistently said was, (we) “just want you to be happy”. 

Instead of waiting for my writing to become an important part of my life, I’ve made room and found time to write.  I’ve said I wanted to write for years.  Yet I couldn’t find a way to pull the trigger and just write consistently.  Since over-thinking is a good way to kill off inspiration I’ll just keep swimming writing.  

Just keep writing, 

     just keep writing, 

just keep writing. 


  1. Don’t waste time on ’shoulds’ unless you made them up.
  2. People, especially family want the best for you.  Just be sure the advice you take is useful.   
  3. Find time and space for your passion.



Who Are You Meant To Be? – Self-Assessment Quiz

8 Mental Habits I Had to Quit to Live a Passionate Life


September 15, 2018

Paula Stokes

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    September 6, 2018

    Paula, I am enjoying your blog emensly. Thank you for making the time for this! Kelcey

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    September 29, 2018

    Wonderful, timely bit of reading for me. Thank you so much for sharing your insights (so I don’t have to go digging so deep for them myself!) I especially loved your ‘take aways’, they rang very true for me – wrote them on the chalkboard above my writing desk (I hope that’s ok!)

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